An Open Letter to the Boy Scouts of America Indian Nations Council Leadership Standing Against Recognition for Toxic and Fragile Oklahoma Senator the Dishonorable Markwayne Mullin

In my career, and as an individual deeply committed to the principles of integrity, respect, and community service, I have always sought to champion the values that foster true leadership and positive societal change. Part of this commitment involves standing up for these values, especially when they are challenged or undermined by actions in our communities and organizations that hold significant influence over young minds and the leaders of tomorrow.

Recently, a decision made by the Indian Nations Council of the Boy Scouts of America to honor an individual whose actions and public demeanor starkly contrast with the fundamental principles of scouting has compelled me to speak out. This open letter is not just a personal expression of dismay but a call to reflection on what we, as a community and society, endorse as exemplary leadership and character.

As an Eagle Scout, the values I learned and lived by in scouting—leadership, service, integrity, and respect—have profoundly shaped my professional ethos and personal life. The decision to honor Senator Markwayne Mullin with the "God and Country Award" raises pressing questions about the alignment between the values we profess and the figures we celebrate.

Publishing this letter openly on my blog and website is driven by a belief in the power of dialogue and the importance of holding ourselves and our institutions to the highest standards of ethical conduct and moral leadership. It is a reflection of my commitment to not only advocate for positive and inclusive leadership practices but also to challenge decisions that could potentially misguide the next generation of leaders.

I invite you to read this open letter, reflect on the values it seeks to uphold, and join the conversation about the kind of leadership we want to celebrate and the legacy we wish to leave for future leaders.

This Open Letter has been sent directly to the Indian Nations Council, Chris Guthrie the Director of Development at Indian Nations Council, Chris Guthrie, and the Executive Director/Scout Executive at Indian Nations Council, Art Hawkins.

I am writing to you not just as an Eagle Scout but as a deeply concerned member of the scouting community and a citizen who believes in the fundamental values that the Boy Scouts of America have traditionally stood for. The decision to honor Senator Markwayne Mullin with the "God and Country Award" has compelled me to express my profound disappointment and disgust.

This choice strikes at the heart of what it means to be part of the Boy Scouts. The values of leadership, integrity, respect for others, and a commitment to service are what I believe define us, not just as scouts but as individuals committed to bettering our communities and ourselves. Senator Mullin's public behavior and espoused values, characterized by aggression, intolerance, and a blatant disregard for constructive dialogue, stand in stark opposition to everything the Boy Scouts have taught me.

To honor someone whose actions and rhetoric promote division, hostility, and a regression to the basest forms of conflict resolution is not only disappointing; it is profoundly damaging. It tarnishes the reputation of the Boy Scouts and, by extension, every scout and leader who has worked to embody the organization's ideals. It sends a message to our young scouts that these behaviors are acceptable, even admirable, which is a direct contradiction to the lessons of empathy, kindness, and moral courage that are foundational to our organization.

I am embarrassed and ashamed to see such a decision made by the leadership of the Indian Nations Council. This is not the scouting I know, nor is it the scouting I want future generations to know. Honoring Senator Mullin is, in my view, an active endorsement of values that are antithetical to the principles of scouting. It not only reflects poorly on the Indian Nations Council but also on the entire state of Oklahoma, reinforcing stereotypes of intolerance and aggression that many of us work tirelessly to overcome.

By recognizing Senator Mullin in this manner, we risk alienating those within our ranks who cherish the true spirit of scouting and deterring potential members who seek a community that upholds the highest standards of ethical conduct and inclusive leadership. More gravely, we risk imparting to our young scouts the message that the path of least resistance, marked by hostility and refusal to engage with differing views, is the path to honor and recognition.

I implore the leadership of the Indian Nations Council to reconsider this decision. The Boy Scouts should be a beacon of hope, leadership, and moral integrity. We should stand for the best of what humanity can offer—compassion, understanding, resilience in the face of challenges, and an unwavering commitment to the betterment of ourselves and our communities.

Please, let us not diminish the legacy of the Boy Scouts of America by honoring those who embody the very antithesis of our core values. Let us instead reaffirm our dedication to building a more thoughtful, inclusive, and respectful society.

With the utmost sincerity and urgency,

Ed Schaefer

Eagle Scout

Losing Your Cool: Regulating Emotions for Effective Leadership

In the realm of leadership, the ability to regulate emotions is as crucial as strategic planning or decision-making. This post explores the intricate relationship between emotional intelligence and effective leadership, offering practical strategies to manage emotions, maintain composure, and lead with empathy and clarity.

Emotional Intelligence: The Bedrock of Effective Leadership

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the cornerstone of strong leadership. It goes beyond the surface of understanding your emotions to a deeper level of empathy, where you connect with your team and appreciate their viewpoints. This connection is essential for resolving conflicts and fostering collaboration.

Identifying Emotional Triggers: Understanding what emotionally charges you can help you anticipate and manage these feelings better. This insight is a powerful tool in a leader's arsenal, allowing for more deliberate and less reactive responses.

Cultivating Self-Control: Self-control is the hallmark of seasoned leadership. It's the ability to choose a thoughtful response over an impulsive reaction. This skill is refined through consistent practice and self-awareness.

Practicing Mindfulness: Mindfulness is a practical, effective tool for maintaining focus and composure. It involves being fully present in the moment, which is critical for clear and composed decision-making in complex leadership scenarios.

Expanding Emotional Self-Regulation Techniques

Effective self-regulation is key to maintaining leadership composure:

• Breathing Exercises: These are quick, effective methods for calming the mind and regaining control in stressful situations.

• Mindfulness and Emotional Awareness: Regular mindfulness practice enhances emotional awareness, helping leaders stay grounded and present.

• Cognitive Reframing: This technique involves changing your perspective on stressful events, viewing them as opportunities rather than threats.

• Comprehensive Stress Management: Integrating regular physical activity, adequate rest, and relaxation techniques into your routine can help maintain emotional equilibrium.

Navigating the Challenges of Stress and Decision-Making

Stress can significantly impact decision-making. Recognizing and mitigating stress is crucial for maintaining clear, rational judgment. High stress levels can lead to impulsive decisions, but with the right strategies, you can manage these pressures and maintain effective leadership.

Enriching Emotional Resilience in Leadership

Building emotional resilience involves several critical practices:

• Enhanced Self-Awareness: Regularly reflecting on your emotional responses and their triggers can significantly improve your leadership style.

• Deepening Mindfulness Practices: Incorporating mindfulness into your daily routine can help maintain focus and emotional balance.

• Developing Emotional Resilience: This involves cultivating an ability to recover from setbacks while maintaining a positive outlook.

• Advanced Self-Control Techniques: Developing greater patience and the discipline to think before acting is essential for mature leadership.

Conflict Resolution with Grace and Authority

Handling conflict with poise and authority is a true test of leadership. Embracing criticism with grace and maintaining composure under provocation is not only challenging but necessary for effective leadership. It's about responding with thoughtfulness rather than reacting impulsively.

Integrating Emotional Intelligence into Your Leadership Journey

This journey towards mastering emotional regulation is a continuous process, integral to your growth as a leader. Each challenge presents an opportunity to apply and refine these skills.

Your Next Step: Consider implementing a brief pause in challenging situations. This simple technique can change the dynamics of a conversation and lead to more effective outcomes. If enhancing your leadership skills is your goal, especially in the areas of emotional complexity and empathy, partnering with an executive coach can be a transformative step. Together, we can explore deeper strategies to strengthen your leadership abilities and develop a more resilient, empathetic, and effective approach. Feel free to reach out to discuss how coaching can aid in your leadership development.